I learned this lesson far before I ever realized I might need it one day. My cousin was up visiting from Georgia in early nineties and we went to a plaza to buy booze and cards. He went to the card store, while I ran into the liquor store. I made my purchase, threw it into
the car and made my way back to the card store to get him. There he was, arm in arm with some guy who he introduced me as his “new friend”. I am a straight man… (read more)

    There are many reasons people join the lifestyle, none of which are important to you, except for the reason you have to join, but by explaining some, it will better help you decide if this is something you wish to do and help you understand the mindsets of other couples out there. Many swinging couples have been together long enough to work up a great trust for one another and an excellent communication system. We can never stress enough how vital communication is… (read more)

   The bi flag was unfurled on Dec. 5th 1998 by Michael Page; actually the bi flag broken down makes perfect sense… the bi colors are pink purple blue… and pink is the main color for homosexuals (lesbians and gays)… hence the pink triangle… and blue represents straight… (you are starting to see more and more blue triangles out and about now days too)and purple is the color of blue and pink mixing making purple… so thats why you see the pink and blue triangles overlapping with purple in the middle… thats how it came abou… (read more)

   That question seems so cut and dry depending on the culture and family structure in which you were raised. Yet, it’s not.

First we must look deep within ourselves and define the word “ok”. And then we must stand on one foot, hold a tiger by the tail and juggle nickels with our tongues. Or… define “Love”…. (read more)

   I want to be poly, but I’m not sure I can handle knowing someone I love… loves someone else.

Jealousy is a vicious and caustic emotion in a relationship which indicates a lack of trust. Many people from “one on one” relationships define jealousy as a level of suspicion of unfaithfulness. “Unfaithfulness” is a relative term… (read more)

   So, you are a one woman man and feel you have found the girl of your dreams… only to find out she isn’t a one man woman. It can be a hard concept to understand that this woman could be “THE ONE” when to her you will be “one of many”, but it is possible, and many have found happiness in relationships just like this. You may be of a mono mentality and because of that you would never want someone to change your mind… (read more)

   When this site went online over half a decade ago, BiSexuals were as misunderstood by the gay community as by the straight community. Visiting Pride in Philidelphia, Pa in 2003 we found one Bi booth (our friends at BiUnity) and searched the other venders/organization tables and aside from the “B” in their LGBT pamplets, we found ONE… yep… a single item related to BiSexuals. A car decal of a bi flag…. (read more)

    Part I: Spotting Fakes

    Part II: Planning Safely

    Part III: Getting Intimate

    Many boys and girls and even men and women go through life never realizing or never acknowledging their true sexuality. This can be unhealthy. This can be unhealthy for the physical, mental and emotional well being of the person and thus, be unhealthy for society as a whole. I know many of the “Moral Majority” wish to deem it all as an abomination against god and want to shoot people like me and the BiParadise website for encouraging people to find the truth to their sexuality. Well, I don’t let them get to me, because I am not trying to brainwash the world into being gay… (read more)

    Most people understand the concepts of Heterosexual and HomoSexual and while gay bashers still run rampant, at least the world at large has figured out that homosexuals do exist and what it means to be homosexual. Then comes this whole other concept of BiSexuality and that has gays, lesbian and straight folk all scratching their heads. And with all matters of ignorance, we find erroneous beliefs. This article speaks in braod sweeping gestures, but hopefully it grabs most of the larger fallacies about BiSexuality and dispels the myths for you… (read more)

    BiParadise believes condom usage to be very important, but this is not a condom PSA. You will do as you wish to do, you know the added level of protection given by a condom by now, we don’t need to teach you about how or why to wear a condom. This article is about what to do if your preference is to have the man wear a condom for intercourse and his is not… (read more)

   There is a vast difference between being polyamorous and being polysexual. PolyAmory was created from the Greek “poly” meaning “many” and the Latin “amore” meaning “love”. Many have wondered the reason for the language split. It could have something to do with the two available Greek words would be “philia” which in modern days people see as a “fetish” or “mental illness” or the other, more fitting word, “eros”… (read more)

   If you have read even the slightest bit of text on this site you will know that I am talking about The 3 C’s. Communication, Connection and Comfort. Whether you are a couple, part of a couple or a single, those words will become keys to your happiness in life. I had no intent for the alliteration… (read more)

   A first visit to a swingers club – like any new experience can be daunting. Typical feelings include excitement, a fear of the unknown and worries about sexual adequacy or appearance.

   These feelings are completely normal, we all experience them to some degree and even experienced swingers may experience these feelings when visitng a new club. The good news is: the swingers community is very friendly, forgiving and open…. (read more)